3 Ways to Boost Your Mood with Golden Energy
Shift your emotions surrounding your career, your relationships and your level of abundance to help you live your happy, harmonious life.
Empower Your Feelings and Emotions for Calm Connections
Although numerous words exist to describe emotions, they can be separated into two categories:
positive, expansive, love-centered ones that inspire and build connection, or
negative, contractive, fear-based ones that cause separation and isolation.
Positive emotions of peace, love, joy, happiness and gratitude are centered around your positive connections with yourself, others and/or all LIFE. Negative emotions of anger, fear, grief, sadness and jealousy are based on feeling disconnected with yourself, others and/or all LIFE.
These emotions are very closely connected with your thoughts, words and actions, making it difficult to determine if the emotion is being caused by beliefs or physical circumstances or if the emotion is causing the thoughts and physical responses. Right now, you are focused on your emotional responses and the related connections with yourself, others and all LIFE.
What’s the underlying problem causing your negative feelings and emotions?
Limiting beliefs and feelings of shame, isolation and lack
Being worried about other people’s opinions
Habits and systems are stuck in lack identity
Whether or not any of these limitations is true, claiming them as your own turns them into self-imposed limitations preventing you from living your vision. Release these limitations by making emotional shifts to actively connect more deeply with yourself, others and all LIFE.
Emotional Shifts
Emotional shifts are needed to expand your power, your sense of control over what you think, do and say, and to deepen your connections with yourself, others and all LIFE. You can shift from a contractive emotion to a more positive emotion, which is typically a neutral one. Then you can continue to shift to an expansive emotion, which is more uplifting and aligned with your vision.
Blame > Forgiveness > Acceptance
Your emotions about yourself are often based on your sense of identity, particularly how you feel about yourself in your career. When you have limiting beliefs about yourself, involving shame, isolation and lack of resources, you identify with those limitations and often get defensive and look for who is to blame or who has to be the loser in a situation.
Shame comes from never feeling good enough or feeling that you’re too much, which causes you to make yourself smaller and invisible and prevents you from shining your light.
Isolation comes from feeling unlovable unless you conform or change something about yourself. Or from feeling like you don’t fit into any group at home or at work. These feelings cause you to separate yourself from others mentally, emotionally and/or physically. Some of you may use masking as someone else to conform with societal norms, but this form of hiding takes a lot of energy and can make you feel worse by disconnecting you from your authentic self.
Lack comes from believing that you’ll never have enough time, health, energy, money or other resources, because that belief was handed down from one generation to another. Having “enough” of anything is relative. Minimalists have very few possessions, yet don’t feel a sense of lack, because they feel they have more time, money and energy to truly experience life. Many rich people hoard money because they fear losing it. Some people have very few possessions, yet lead very happy, healthy, full lives. There will always be people who have more or less freetime, money, energy and other resources than you. What’s important is how you feel about what you have and what you want to have.
Murphy’s Law is a great example of a limiting belief - everything that can go wrong, will go wrong. If you believe that, your bias will cause you to notice everything that lines up with that belief, and you’ll miss all the opportunities that prove it wrong. Try believing that everything will go right and notice how much does. What doesn’t usually opens up even better possibilities.
Here is a story to help you begin to shift your limiting beliefs. Some Buddhist monks covered their sacred Golden Buddha statue with clay to hide it from invading soldiers. They left, and no one remained who knew of their secret. Years later, a young monk noticed the sun reflecting off a little piece of the statue. Realizing the truth of the treasure inside, the monks chipped away the clay to reveal the sacred Golden Buddha within.
We began this life with the pureness of a sacred Golden Buddha. Our parents, teachers and leaders protect us by covering us with layers of beliefs about what is right and wrong, good and bad, acceptable and unacceptable, and deserving of punishment or love. They cautioned us to not take risks, to conform, to follow the patterns they were taught. They inadvertently covered us with layers of shame, guilt, doubt, and lots of limiting beliefs. Although some of these beliefs may have been necessary or at least seemed necessary at the time, most are not needed when we become adults. Question the cultural norms as well as our personal limiting beliefs to see if they make sense in the light of current facts and circumstances.
Keep the beliefs and norms that polish the gold. Chip away the clay of negative or limiting beliefs and erroneous thoughts to reduce stress. Chip away the layers of negative self-talk and doubt to discover your own golden buddha within.
Find that pure golden buddha essence within, your unique purpose. When the limiting beliefs try to keep you in your comfort zone, even when it doesn’t feel good, challenge those beliefs. What would you say to your best friend in a similar situation? Would you put them down or tell them they don’t deserve a life they love? Of course not! So treat yourself as your own best friend and use positive self-talk and encouragement. You can also be your own mentor in your career. What would the gurus in your industry recommend? Encourage yourself to follow through on those recommendations.
Shift your limiting beliefs and uncover your pure brilliance. Stop blaming others or yourself. Forgiveness is about not letting past events negatively impact your present circumstances. When you can accept everything and everyone that has come before as necessary to being exactly where you are now, then you are free to choose to think, feel and act in ways that support you to achieve your vision. Vibrate at the level of loving connection, accepting yourself and others exactly as you are.
Lonely > Lovable > Unconditional Love
Your emotions about others are often based on your sense of belonging, particularly how you feel about yourself in your relationships, both personal and professional. When you place a lot of emphasis on other people’s opinions or are constantly waiting for permission and approval, you feel lonely and unlovable. You can never measure up 100% to another’s expectations, because you are not them.You isolate yourself to feel less pain.
One way to begin shifting your emotion specifically related to others is to follow the Golden Rule directly and indirectly. Treat others the way you want to be treated, and demand that they treat you the way they want to be treated. Be cautious in your assumptions about how others want to be treated. Some may have different ideas and values, based on their social or cultural backgrounds. You could change the wording to say, treat others the way they want to be treated and expect them to treat you the way you want to be treated. Others may not want to be treated well if they feel guilt and shame. Treat them well anyway to help them with their emotional shifts by modeling acceptance and unconditional love.
When you are going to meet with someone or several people personally or professionally and you feel that it is not going to go well, it typically doesn’t go well, especially if both of you or all of you felt the same way. Think about how you feel as you’re entering the meeting. You probably could feel the tension in the room in anticipation of a conflict. You felt bad when you predicted the bad outcome, and you also felt bad when it actually happened.
Try an experiment. Tell yourself that the meeting will go well and that everyone will work together to create a solution that works for all - a win/win and all win scenario - the best case scenario. Take a moment to center yourself at a high vibration of unconditional love for yourself and all involved, sending loving, positive energy to each person in turn. Then enter the meeting. You probably notice a different energy in the room. Others will response to your positive energy and relax their own. Communicating in a way that promotes all win scenario will invite others to do the same. Collaborating on the best case scenario will allow all parties to look for creative solutions, which is much easier when there is less stress. Even if things don’t work out perfectly, you will not have experienced a bad outcome twice. But you’re likely to arrive at a better result than imagined. Try it. You’ll like it.
The emotional shift from loneliness begins with self-love, realizing that you are deserving of love. Feel into all of your amazing accomplishments, big and small, all of your personal and professional connections that worked well, specific events or moments, and all the things you have in your life, your home, your pet and your favorite clothes and food. Once you realize how lovable you are, you can set up healthy boundaries around the way others treat you. Show others how to treat you with love and respect by setting an example of how you treat them and yourself. Then you can expand your vibration of loving connections to accept everyone and everything, including yourself, exactly as you are with unconditional love.
Jealousy > Desire > Gratitude
Your emotions about all LIFE are often based on your sense of deserving, particularly how you feel about your worthiness to receive abundant health, wealth and resources. Beliefs about your social status as handed down to you from previous generations. Focusing on your apparent lack of time, money, energy and resources, you feel undeserving of your abundance and jealous of others for having abundant resources.
Your habits and systems are also stuck in your belief in lack. You may have a lot of rainy day supplies and funds because you’re afraid you may lose your job and not have enough later. A reasonable amount of saving and extra supplies is good; hoarding is not. Release anything that no longer serves you. Free up time and money that you would have spent maintaining those things. Design effective and efficient systems that support what you truly want. Take the time to decide what that is. You probably don’t want half the things that you have or that you think you want to keep up with the Joneses. Keep only what you love and/or use.
Sometimes it’s hard to shift out of a lack mentality, because the feelings are so familiar and comfortable. You’re used to the sadness and despair that you associate with your sense of lack. You can’t imagine how things could be any different. Here is a principle that is pure GOLD:
Giving
Overcomes
Lack’s
Despair
Giving where you feel lack helps you step into the flow of giving and receiving abundance.
Where do you feel lack? Do you feel a lack of time, energy, health, money or other resources?
When you feel a lack of time, give some of your time to others. You’ll find that taking breaks to do other things actually makes you more productive. You’re also less likely to need as much wind down time playing games and spiraling into social media.
When you feel a lack of money, give some away. You’ll notice how much you really do have.
Hoarding focuses on only receiving. Some people focus only on giving and feel like a martyr, which also feels like lack. Step into the flow of giving generously and receiving gratefully.
Jealousy results from believing that others can get what you want, but you can’t, because you believe you don’t deserve it or that members of your family never get a break. Shift those beliefs from comparisons where you fall short to believing that if one person can achieve what you want, then it’s also possible for you. Be happy for them, and expect others to be happy for you when you achieve your goals. That shifts your emotions to desire for what you want, which is actually a neutral emotion, because part of you is still focused on the fact that you do not yet have it. To complete the shift from desire tinged with a sense of lack, you need to focus on gratitude for what you already have. Until you live from a state of gratitude, you will never feel that you have enough. Appreciate all your accomplishments, your relationships and your abundance. You are enough, and you have enough. And it’s okay to want more, to want to achieve your vision of your best life.
To reinforce your new emotions of gratitude, behave in ways that express your appreciation for all you have. Take some time to connect with all LIFE, appreciating this amazing world you live in and all the people, animals, plants and rocks that are often taken for granted. Feel your connection to all LIFE in the flow of giving and receiving.
Deepen Your Golden Love-filled Connections
Your emotions are very closely connected with your thoughts, words and actions and can make it difficult to determine which comes first. However, some patterns emerge. When learning, you start with thoughts, which impact emotions, which stimulate actions. During stressful situations your physical and emotional responses occur before you have any conscious thoughts.
To deepen your connections, start with a centering breath to release any physical stress. Exhaling longer than your inhale will calm your breath and pulse. Release excess physical energy by moving - pace, walk, shake it off. Next you can set your intention for what you want to achieve - peace of mind, loving relationships and abundant health and wealth. Then you are ready to expand your energetic vibration to the golden energy of unconditional love. Send love to yourself, others and all LIFE.