3 Ways to Create Harmonious Relationships

Connect energetically and intentionally for mutually beneficial relationships.

Connect with Others Using Your Best IMAGE

If you separate yourself from others and isolate yourself from fear or a sense of not belonging or not feeling lovable, then you’ve cut your energetic connection with others. Step into your best IMAGE to reconnect with others. In my previous blog, 5 Values that Empower Your Relationships, I discussed the 5 values you can embrace to express your best IMAGE: Integrity, Mutuality, Acceptance, Generosity, Expression. This blog focuses on several ways to connect with others harmoniously to help you embrace these values.

Here are 3 ways to create harmonious relationships:

• Mutuality

• Connect Energetically

• Be Your Best Self

Empower your relationships with yourself, others and all LIFE by connecting to all with the positive energy of love, mutuality and generosity. 

Mutuality

Mutuality is when two or more individuals or groups of people have genuine emotions for each other and say and do things for each other with mutual respect. You can influence mutuality by generating a positive energetic state. 

All Win Mindset

Mutual respect is a basic aspect of mutuality. Keeping that in mind as you step into meetings, add the mindset shift of expecting the result to be a win/win. Synergize everyone’s best skills and suggestions to create a better solution than either of you created separately, which results in a win/win. Creating a winning meeting begins with centering yourself into an energized state and generating a loving positive energy toward everyone else in the meeting. They will likely respond to your positive energy with their own positive energy.

Communicating for  Understanding and Trust

Being fully present and deeply listening to the other person enables you to better understand them and to ask better questions to further deepen your understanding of their message and perspective. The person you’re listening to will feel your connection more deeply and respond positively to you. 

Always being truthful and doing what you say you’ll do will build trust. Again the other person will recognize and appreciate your effort and will trust you and will respond to you with a more energetic connection.

Connect Energetically

Being fully present and engaged is the only way to truly experience your life and to be in harmonious relationships with others. Be open, welcoming and accepting of others. Approach situations from a high energetic level to enhance your connection with everyone involved. You will find that most people will shift their energy to match more closely to your higher level. This can happen in meetings, in public with strangers or in more intimate settings with friends and family.

Protective Walls or Welcoming

Notice your interactions with others. When you feel you don’t belong, you probably put up protective walls preventing any true energetic connection. Lowering your walls and being more welcoming does not mean you won’t have healthy boundaries.

It means you will be able to make healthier energetic connections with family, friends, neighbors and colleagues. 

When you act from fear or a sense of not belonging, you relate unskillfully with others. You may want to be respected, loved, and appreciated, but the image that you project says I’m invisible and unlovable, and you therefore expect to be disrespected, unloved, and unappreciated. Instead choose to relate to others from a state of knowing oneness and interdependence.

Comparisons - Happy for Others

Low self-esteem is often the result of unhealthy comparisons with others. When you compare yourself with others, do you put yourself down or do you view the other’s success as something to strive for? When a toddler sees someone walking when they are still falling down, do they beat themselves up or do they see the other person as an example of what is possible? Be happy for others who achieve what you want to achieve; be grateful to them. They are proving that it is possible, so you can do it, too.

Fully Present and Engaged

Again, being fully present and engaged is the only way to truly experience your life in harmony with all LIFE. Look for the lessons and growth in all your interactions with others and with the world. All forms of LIFE can teach you lessons. Velcro was created based on an insect’s ability to stick to its environment. Wolves teach us how to protect and care for our whole community by allowing the oldest/slowest to set the pace in front with the best and strongest protectors leading the pack, then the rest of the group is in the middle with the leader at the end, making sure nobody is left behind. You can learn a lot by being fully present and engaged in watching other people, other cultures and nature.

Be Your Best Self

What image would you like everyone to see as your best self? Step into the person you are in your vision. How would that version of you think, feel and act? What choices would she make?

IMAGE - Persona

You could use Jean Houston’s idea of stepping into a persona that matches your situation. She claims she doesn’t like to write, but she loves to cook. So she uses her persona as a cook to write her books. Thinking in terms of recipes and ingredients, etc. Although this might seem like masking, the distinction is that instead of pretending to be someone you are not, you are using parts of you that you love to help you achieve your goal. By stepping into your best self, you are vibrating at a higher level of energy.

If you are not a confident public speaker, yet you love creating art, you could paint images with your words for your audience. Embellish your speech with colorful stories as examples to make your points. Explain your process using artistic terms. Think of a way you could use a persona that truly resonates with you to assist you in an uncomfortable activity. 

Impactful and Influential

By thinking, feeling and acting with integrity, you naturally impact and influence people. Continue to energize yourself with love, courage and confidence when you are in uncomfortable situations, so you continue to vibrate positive energy to invite others to hear your message of your life purpose. You will naturally attract people who resonate with you to collaborate on creating wonderful experiences.

Aligned Living

When you align your thoughts, feelings, words and actions with your vision and values, you are naturally more energetic and can participate more fully in life. You will be able to more readily accept what happens in every situation and response appropriately. You will view setbacks as lessons, not failure. You will relate to others and yourself with more compassion and understanding. You will align your decisions for your good and the good of all. 

More Empowering Relationship Explorations

In the next blog, I will discuss the keys to harnessing the values that empower your relationships to create harmony in your life.. 

• 3 Keys to Conscious Collaborative Creation

• Combine wisdom, compassion and gratitude to create a wonderful life.