1 LIFE Understood Through 3 Connections

Empower all your relationships to enjoy the company along the way.

The Company You Enjoy

In my blog The 7 Steps of the Creative Process, I explained that the steps can be divided into 3 parts - The Destination You Envision, The Company You Enjoy and The Journey You Experience. The Company You Enjoy consists of the fourth step further divided into three parts. The fourth step is focused on the emotional connections by empowering your relationships with yourself, other people and all LIFE, so you can enjoy the company along the way. 

Step 4 - Powerful Connections

You experience your life through three types of connections - your connection to self, your connection to other people and your connection to all LIFE. These connections help you understand your life directly, indirectly and experientially. This blog looks at each of these connections as follows:

• Love Your Whole Self 

• Synergize Your Relationships

• Embrace Your Unity with All LIFE

Each energetic connection and its relationship will be discussed by describing the energetic connection, the levels of mastery and some practical ideas to help you deepen your connections and empower your relationships.

Love Your Whole Self 

It starts with yourself. Use rejuvenating nourishing rituals to love and accept your whole self – mind, heart and body. Embrace and integrate your younger versions of yourself with your current empowered adult self and your future vision self.

I Connect Energetically with Myself!

You connect energetically with yourself through direct understanding. You can have conversations with yourself through thoughts, feelings and physical messages. Your answers and ideas are already inside you. Your needs are known even though you may not yet have recognized them in your conscious awareness.

A large part of healing and learning to love your whole self revolves around your self identity and self judgment. So the first step is to release judgment about the younger versions of yourself and your current adult self. Instead, express gratitude and appreciation for all the lessons you learned and are still learning that have gotten you this far on your journey. Hug your younger self and tell her you’ve got this. She doesn’t have to be afraid anymore. You are strong and resilient. You can face any fear and move through it. Your future vision self helps to provide the motivation to face any obstacle in your path. Your future self already exists in you and is manifesting more and more each day. Integrate your past, present and future versions of yourself to strengthen your identity and deepen your relationship with yourself. Love your whole self to increase your energetic connection.

One of best ways to connect with yourself is to let go of the outside world and just BE with yourself. Embrace the term “Peace, Be Still” and center yourself in that thought. Several ways exist for you to connect with that still, peaceful part of yourself. You could meditate, focusing on your breath or on a mantra, whatever appeals to you and helps you to relax and release. Contemplation also works, focusing on a particular theme, such as your life or vision. Journaling, using a theme or prompt, or your stream of consciousness, can help you process and release anything or celebrate and explore a theme. Use whatever resonates with you to help you connect more deeply with yourself and find your place of peaceful stillness. 

Levels of Belonging - Dependence, Independence, Interdependence

During the first part of your life, you are dependent on your parents, teachers and other authority figures for all your needs. When you start to reach maturity, you pull away from those who care for your needs, so you can develop your confident independence. Finally, as you develop your confidence and gain your rhythm as an adult, you realize that you do nothing all by yourself, you are interdependent.

Self Love and Care

Being self centered is not the same as being selfish. Being selfish means that you lack consideration for others. Self centered means you focus on your needs first, then you can help others. Be centered in yourself to remain present to your purpose.

Love your whole self. Use loving self talk, like you would to your best friend. Have compassion for yourself. Use rejuvenating nourishing rituals to care for all your needs - mental, emotional and physical.

Choose three ways to love and care for yourself this week, one each - mental, emotional and physical. Overlapping them is even more powerful.

Synergize Your Relationships

Realize your interdependence with other people. Synergistic relationships produce greater results than the sum of the individual results. Move beyond placing blame on yourself or others, and even beyond the need to forgive, to the level of acceptance of what is. Accepting each person’s unique traits and abilities will enable you to determine the perfect level of synergy between you, emphasizing the best traits and talents of everyone in each situation.

I Connect Energetically with Other People!

You connect energetically with other people through indirect understanding, mirroring or reflecting to each other what you need to understand. Too often people judge another harshly and don’t realize the other’s behavior is a reflection of their own. If you think someone is not listening to you, ask yourself if you have truly been listening to others? 

Open to the flow of love. Send love to others, especially if you are expecting any level of conflict, and it will instead bring a positive energy to the situation. Be open to receive love as well. Break down any barriers that isolate you from the world. I’m not referring to true safety barriers for your own protection, but the ones that prevent anyone getting closer to you because of your fears.

Ubuntu is a wonderful African philosophy that means - “I am, because you are, because of who we all are.” It is a wonderful description of interdependence. You cannot survive without other people in your life. 

Levels of Acceptance - Blame, Forgiveness, Acceptance

Fear, shame and low self-esteem make you focus on who is to blame and should be punished, you or someone else. When you realize blame punishes you as the jailor, you forgive all participants to release any power the event has over your present life. Move beyond forgiving to accepting everyone and being fully present with what is, then align your responsive actions with your vision for change.

Support System

Everyone needs a group of people in their life that they can depend on for support. Most people have a family or a close group of friends. 

Others also have partners in believing that support their purpose work, sometimes in the form of a mastermind or groups of 8. You may want to find or create such a support system for yourself. Create a collaborative community which provides compassion and support, where each person’s unique contribution is valued.

Reach out to 3 people who you would like to support, and express gratitude to 3 people who support you.

Embrace Your Unity with All LIFE

Energy flows through all LIFE, connecting you to everyone and everything. Raising your level of consciousness enables you to engage more fully with all LIFE. Your energy contracts when you create separation at the level of competition with winners and losers. As you expand your consciousness you learn to cooperate with others to the level where both sides win, and then you collaborate so that all win. When you relate to all from an expanded level of consciousness, your local actions send a positive ripple throughout the world and the universe. You learn to work with your energy to contribute for the benefit of all LIFE.  

I Connect Energetically with All LIFE!

You connect energetically with All LIFE through experiential understanding. Sensory perception has provided you with abundant information throughout your life. You assimilate this information for later use. Much of it becomes instinct or intuition to guide your next steps. 

This energetic connection expands on the ones with yourself and with other people. The sensory perception becomes part of your sense of self. The realization of interdependence with all people is expanded to interdependence with All LIFE.  You would not survive without plants, animals, people, water, sunshine, etc. Be fully present to your sensory perceptions and your thoughts, feelings and physical responses to them. They help you to understand your world.

Levels of Consciousness - Competition, Cooperation, Collaboration

Levels of consciousness are about how you view your relationships with yourself, others and all LIFE. Competition is all about winners and losers or victors and victims. This level is the antithesis of Oneness and interdependence. The next level moves to win/win or no deal, where both parties win and cooperate. Acting as a vessel for the good of both parties. Collaboration honors the verity of Oneness and interdependence of all LIFE, so all win. Use Conscious Collaborative Creation to benefit all.

Energizing with LIFE

To truly energize yourself, engage with All LIFE. Take nature walks in your own backyard, in the woods or on a beach. Connect energetically by sending unconditional love to all - Plants, Animals, People, the Universe - and open to living in that flow of LIFE. 

Celebrate your interdependence by fulfilling your purpose work for your contribution to the world. Promote World PEACE, random acts of kindness, and activism for the benefit of all. Give where you feel lack to realize the level of abundance you have already achieved. Celebrate seasons, cycles and rhythms, honoring your connection with all LIFE. Experience your life fully perceiving with all your senses. 

Better understand your one Life by energetically connecting with yourself, other people and all LIFE.